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Increasing Self Confidence: The First Steps

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Self-confidence is the foundation on which we build our lives and dreams. It is the belief in our own ability to perform tasks and achieve goals. This powerful feeling plays a crucial role in how we behave, how we interact with others and how far we can go in pursuing our ambitions. But what if self-confidence lacking? Understanding the roots of low self-esteem is an essential first step on the road to building self-confidence.

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The starting point of Self-confidence

It is important to understand why you lack confidence in yourself. Did something happen in your past? Factors such as upbringing, social interactions, experiences of success and failure, and cultural influences can all have an impact. Low self-esteem is not innate, and understanding its origins is a crucial starting point in the journey to self-confidence.

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Angry at yourself and jealous of others?

This is quite logical, because every person wants to have a certain social status. And when you are below that, life feels very unfair. Do remember that not everything is what it seems and especially on social media. Limit or stop it if you feel negative after using it. And by the way apart from that, being less into something is not a bad thing. Accept it and focus on what you are good at and excel in it. Don't know what you are good at? Just ask others.

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Albert Einstein:

"Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish on his ability to climb a tree, he will spend his whole life believing he is stupid."

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The Process

Building self-confidence is a process that takes time and effort. It is important to learn from the past, but not to get stuck in it. Take time to find yourself, understand what your strengths and weaknesses are, and accept your current situation as you work to improve.

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I say do it

Take real steps towards growth. Do things you are afraid of, because stepping outside your comfort zone is where real growth takes place. One of the best remedies against low self-esteem is pride - pride in your efforts, your growth and your achievements, no matter how small. Treat yourself like a good friend; be kind, encouraging and supportive of yourself. Accept compliments with a "thank you" and ask yourself, "If this were a good friend, how would I react?" So why not treat yourself the same way?

But also really doing

The hardest part about working on yourself is actually doing it. Because if you don't think yourself worth it, why work on yourself? Prove yourself wrong. Write it in your diary and do it.

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Falling and getting up

It is not bad to fail, because you can learn from failure. If you never fail , you can't get better either. Just look at people who wanted to fly. The first planes didn't get off the ground or even crashed, but by making those mistakes, they learned how to do it. Just as they will fall and get up, you too will fall before you move forward. You can fail infinitely but you often only need to succeed once to reach the goal, so don't give up.

Self-confidence is not something you acquire overnight, but an ongoing journey of self-discovery, acceptance and action. The road to self-confidence starts with understanding the past, embracing the present and working towards a better future. Put it on, you can do it.


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